I had sex with 15 men on a busy day –
After heard this thing, I blinked at her once then twice, and then stopped blinking for a minute. I just stared at her innocent and beautiful face. She was just like any other school going girl who is full of dreams of a bright future but she was everything except a daydreaming girl.
I was numb for a second not because I had doubts about her capacity of handling 15 clients in a day or I was calculating her profit on that particular day but I was thinking that how had she felt physically, mentally, and emotionally on that particular day?
As a normal person, if someone invades my personal space, I got irritated and it doesn’t matter if it is some girl or some guy. I am sure that you must also get irritated when anyone tried to push you in a queue, jostle you in a crowd, or try to intimidate you. Then how come she has ignored that irritation when 15 different strangers have invaded her personal space?
You can say that she is a prostitute, she is used to that. After all, she has chosen this profession but she is also human. Isn’t it? Well, I am not writing this to sensitize you about girls like her or raising awareness about safe sex with them. They and their clients are well educated about safe sex thanks to the television programs on HIV awareness, organizations, and big hoardings on every street and corner of the society.
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You must have come across horrible experiences of prostitutes through videos and articles in which they have shared how they have been treated badly or being tortured.
I am not going to talk about that or share any heart wrenching experience either. I am here to tell you something which you usually don’t read in the newspaper. I am going to share is how their profession affects them physically and psychologically from a medical perspective.
They are lost
Do you know these girls are more open-minded than the average Indian and they have a high EQ (emotional quotient), they interact (on a very personal level) with complete strangers than the average person which indicates that they are more socially interactive, but one thing falls them – they don’t understand themselves? They are disturbed psychologically and I think this is because of the way Indian society works.
Here men are not like the clients in Paulo Coelho’s 11 minutes who interacted with the protagonist to reduce their stress and spend some peaceful time with her. She was a counselor to them and not just a whore. Here in India, mostly men are always in a hurry, they want only sex, they want to do it and leave that place as soon as possible.
I met Neeshu (name changed), a 17 years old call girl to ask some questions to gather insights into her professional life and more about her health. Some people can call her whore, slut, hooker, escort, and many other names but for me she was a human being who was breathing properly, looking fine, and talking with confidence.
Her brief story
Every call girl has a story, don’t you think so? She also had a story of need and despair. She came into this profession 7 months ago to earn money to feed her and her family. She hadn’t discussed more her family, but she lives with her parents. Unlike another profession, this profession doesn’t have respect and made her felt like tissue paper sometimes. She had a boyfriend, and she feels he uses her for money and doesn’t respect her, but she is badly in love with him and can’t do a breakup.
“With this profession, I earn more than Rs 100,000 (approx $2000) a month and invests in property.” I asked if she feels rich – ‘Yes, I can shop for anything I wish and I pay bills on my date because my boyfriend doesn’t earn yet – she says. She just passed her 12th standard.
“What do you think about men,” I asked casually and got a blunt answer.
“Harami hote hain sare (All are bastards)” I smiled a little at her honest answer.
She told me that she has met a variety of people. Among them, some were good and become her friends. Most of her clients are her friends now and they behaved sweetly with her.
Health talks
Coming to some serious note, I asked her
| How many times you had sex in this duration, and if sex excites you?
Neeshu: I don’t count now and don’t even remember yet. I think I have satisfied 1000s of men until now. In my busy day last week – I had managed 15 clients in one single day. Sex doesn’t excite me anymore, I feel like machinery process only.
| Do you feel the same with your boyfriend as well?
Neeshu: No with him, it is different than others. I have a love for him, but overall it feels the same.
I Loved Her Without Knowing What Was Actually In Her Heart…….
I liked her honesty in her answers. I have consulted a sexologist to know his opinion on Neeshu’s practices. I mean with this rate of sexual involvement, what kind of effects she could have on her body.
She has only 10 – 15 years
Doctor: if she will be involved in sexual activities with rate, she has a total life of 10 – 15 years. It doesn’t mean that she would die but her body will behave as a normal female body till 15 years maximum.
| Haven’t you ever felt addicted to ‘Sex’, now you do it almost every day?
Neeshu: Yes, I feel that I am addicted to this, but that is not what excites me though. I do it for money only.
I asked the doctor if her frequent sexual acts can make her addicted to sex.
No orgasm, no addiction
Doctor: She can never be addicted to sex. Our mind only gets addicted to something when it gives a pleasing sensation or feeling of satisfaction but in her case, the whole sex act is a mechanical process that doesn’t excite her. In the normal case, people find the sex more satisfying when they reach the orgasm but in her case, she hardly has any orgasm.
| What are the body changes you have been noticing in you?
Neeshu: I think I am fat now. I go to the gym to burn extra calories. My breasts are not firm like it used to be.
She showed me her earlier pictures from which one can clearly notice the changes. Regular sex is affecting her in one way or the other. Going to the gym to maintain a good figure is not her hobby but her liability.
| Have you ever visited to doctor for some health reason?
Neeshu: Yes, I had some infection in my vagina, so I had visited.
Infection with every intercourse
I asked the doctor what are the chances of infection she has and what kind of infection she could have.
Doctor: there are maximum chances of vaginal and uterine infection in her case. Although her clients might have used protection like condoms it is used just before the intercourse. Commonly, protection is not used during foreplay as it can interfere with the erection in men. Moreover, she doesn’t have knowledge of the hygiene level of her each client which further puts her health at risk.
Although, she was not ready to admit it or notice it her profession has affected her mentally. At her age, girls are shy but she was blunt and independent taking care of her family with her own money.
If you would ask me, she was not behaving like a teenage girl. I think that girl has been lost somewhere. She doesn’t even look like an average 18-year-old Indian teenage girl. She is ethical or unethical, but a responsible member of her family. I had limited time, so I couldn’t ask her if she drinks and smokes and I don’t have an opinion – if one should respect her or not. This is your upbringing, how to behave with females and another person besides her work.
I asked the doctor – if her profession can affect her mentally
Sin is a sin, you admit it or not
Doctor: Look, we all know what is good or what is bad. Either our parents have taught that or we have learned by ourselves but we can define good over bad.
For example, people say that there is no harm in drinking but when they go to look for a groom for their sister or daughter, their main concern is if the boy drinks or not. They find nondrinker boy a good match for their girl. Why? Because they know the negative impacts of alcohol that how it can snatch the sanity of a person.
Similarly, in the case of this girl, she might be doing this job to secure her family financially but she knew that it is not a respectable profession. She can’t disclose her profession to any member of her family even to the sisters. Although, she is trying to be strong from the outside she is deteriorating on a mental level which can lead her into depression if not treated at right time.
Severe infection can rob fertility
Motherhood is a special power to any woman so I couldn’t hold myself from asking this question that does her profession can affect her fertility.
Doctor: No, in the normal case, she can be a mother like any other woman till 30 – 35 years of age. But if any vaginal infection reaches her uterus then it can risk her fertility.
He added that her body will become old much earlier as she is exhausting her body too much. When nature has made her body to involve in a sexual act 2 – 3 times and she is doing it 15 times then it will surely affect her body. He boldly said that she couldn’t sell her body after ten years.
Many people criticize these kinds of girls, some show sympathy for their condition but some encourage everybody to raise a voice against prostitution but this is also true that nobody can eradicate it from its roots. It is an ancient trade. Girls like Neeshu has to take a decision for themselves to come out from this profession if they want to live healthily.